A pinay’s guide to planning your big day
Your stomach has declared war against your system. You have reoccurring nightmares about walking down the aisle. You can’t stand the thought of picturing yourself in one of the most beautiful dress you’ll ever own.
You’re suddenly struck with an unshakeable paranoia, running each and every possible lifelong scenario in your mind – the good, bad and disastrous included.
Does any of this sound familiar? If so, you may have a case of the pre-wedding day jitters.
Some people blame it on nerves. Others feel taking an opportunity to reflect leads them to reassess their decisions – and a commitment that is “supposed to” last a lifetime.
Whether you’re anxious or uncertain, understand this is not the end of your nuptial journey. If you feel as though something simply isn’t right, test out some of the steps listed below before you decide to call it quits.
1.Reach out to someone who knows you best.
Sometimes, it helps to get an outside perspective – especially from someone who is ready to be brutally honest with you. Approach one of your best friends or a family member who isn’t afraid to lay down the truth. Are you a healthier, happier person now that your significant other is around, or are you more miserable than ever? Sometimes you need an outsider’s eye to help you realize how this relationship has changed you, for better or worse.
2.Figure out what you’re truly anxious about.
Your wedding will easily be one of the most important days of your life. This is the point where your life becomes permanently intertwined with another – spiritually, physically and financially. You may find yourself focusing on all the “what ifs?”. What if we end up in a financial rut after paying for this wedding? What if my family doesn’t like my future husband or wife? Will things change once we live under the same roof? A lot of different reasons can keep your head spinning, but they may be more about you versus your future partner.
3.Decide whether you’re ready for commitment.
Maybe you’ve ruled out all other factors and start contemplating whether or not you’re actually ready to be monogamous. Do you feel like you’re getting married too young? Do you doubt your loved one’s loyalty? Are you worried there may be someone out there who’s potentially a better match? Think long and hard about this one. If you can’t picture yourselves growing old together, perhaps it’s best to grow up apart.
4.Goals, dreams and aspirations.
The person you’re planning on spending the rest of your life with should be ready to grow with you. Whether you plan on travelling, changing career paths or starting a family, there needs to be a mutual understanding from both parties that all options are in the realm of possibility. If they’re not ready to consider being a part of your big decisions, decide whether or not you want to compromise your goals and passions for their sake.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and by no means a linear path. When you’re ready to write your vows, think about who you see yourself in five, ten and fifty years from now. If you can imagine yourself sharing your life with another person, then maybe you’re just worried about public speaking and catering costs. Ultimately, it’s up to you decide whether you’re ready to say: I do.
