Maraming mga magulang na hindi napapansin na marami sa mga itinuturo nila sa kanilang mga anak sa pang-araw-araw na buhay ay malaki ang nagiging epekto sa pagiging mapanghusga ng mga ito.
Different parents have their own style in teaching or raising their children. And most often, bigotry begins here without the parents’ noticing it.
As examples, the moment a parent teaches his/her child that pink is only for girls and blue for boys, his child will start to limit his idea of color-sexuality association, and this will naturally translates into being a judgmental person. Naturally, when the child has been taught that only girls could wear pink boots or could have long hair, the moment he sees someone doing the opposite, he will think that what this person is doing is wrong. He will start to tease or make fun of or question the sexuality of his boy playmates who wear something pink or who have long hair.
The moment a parent teaches her children that something is wrong, the children will grow up thinking that that something is indeed wrong; and every time they see other people doing that, they will have the tendency to judge those people negatively because they have been led to believe that what these people are doing is wrong. So, as a parent, be careful with what you are teaching your children. If it is something that involves choice and preference, you should be clear about that. If you don’t like your young son to have long hair or to wear pink boots, for instance, just don’t let them without the need to invent judgmental reasons; no need to tell them “Oh, you should not wear that because that’s only for girls.” Because the moment you do this, you have instilled in his mind that a boy wearing something pink or sporting long hair is doing something wrong. That’s the beginning of his developing into a bigoted person.
So, how to go about it?
I’m not saying that all parents should start buying pink stuff for their male children. The point is, teach them that colors, hairstyles, and many other things are simply a matter of personal preference; and that everyone should have the right to choose what they feel looks good on them without the worry of getting teased or ridiculed about it. If you don’t like your son to wear something pink, then you have the right to do so; but don’t lead your son to believe that the reason you are not letting him wear pink is because wearing pink for a boy is wrong. Just tell him that you don’t like it for him because of personal preference. This way, you are giving consideration to parents who have different sets of preference. This way, even if your child sees a male classmate who is wearing pink, he will not tease him or make fun of him. He will know that anyone could wear whatever color they want and that they’re being different from each other does not mean that someone picked a wrong choice.
Sa Madaling Salita
Maraming bagay na naituturo ang mga magulang sa kanilang mga anak na maaaring pag-ugatan ng pagiging mapanghusga nito, kaya dapat e maingat sa pagbibigay ng tamang dahilan kumbakit natin ipinapagawa o ayaw ipagawa sa ating mga anak ang maraming bagay. Maraming bagay sa mundo e hindi ginagawa ng tao dahil hindi nila ito gusto. Hindi nangangahulugan na masama na agad o mali ito. Kanya-kanyang panlasa lang yan; at ang pagkakaiba ng panlasa ng bawat tao e natural lang.
Kung ayaw mong pagsuotin ng kulay pink ang anak mong lalake e karapatan mo iyan, pero wag mong ituro sa anak mo na kaya ayaw mo e kasi pangbabae lang ang pink o mali na pink ang isuot ng isang lalaki. Ang sabihin mo na lang e hindi mo lang gusto ang kulay pink dahil mas gusto mo ng ibang kulay. Sa ganitong paraan, natututo ang bata na magkaiba man sila ng paboritong kulay ng kalaro niya e walang masama rito.
Or, in Simple Words
Many choices that people make are just a matter of personal preference. It’s not a question of right or wrong. Teach your children the concept of diversity and not the idea of bigotry.