A pinay’s guide to getting hitched
As a newlywed, there was one major obstacle I had to face immediately after signing the dotted line.
To some, the choice comes easy. But to me, deciding on whether or not I should retain my last name was an unbearably difficult decision. Who knew a few little letters could bear so much weight?
As a professional pinay who’s one half of an interracial couple, there are a few reasons why I was on the fence. I prodded myself with many (silly) questions. If I change my last name, will I lose part of my Filipino identity? Will my professional connections recognize me with a new last name? Why don’t I just join the hyphenation club?
It’s not a sore thumb that comes to mind when first getting hitched, but ultimately has a lasting and permanent effect. And don’t even get me started on the paperwork.
Whether you choose to keep or change your last name is a decision that’s entirely yours to make. We live in a modern society where traditional practices have progressed immensely, and any choice that feels right is and should be acceptable.
My only advice to newlyweds and soon-to-be brides is this: no matter what you decide to do, never forget who you are and the stories connected with your maiden name and family history. The memories will live on whether you choose to live on as Reyes, or decide to delve in and join the Smiths.